Eye Contact

tomline · Post Number:#1 **Posted:** Wed Jan 07, 2009 1:58 pm

Has anyone any advice to give about the whole eye contact thing :?:

I started work on eye contact today but B says it is too difficult. Today probably wasn't a good day to start as she had to try on her new (different) glasses at the opticians and as we all know change is unbearable

Clare

farfalla · Post Number:#2 **Posted:** Wed Jan 07, 2009 9:11 pm

hi there, i found it hard with my son to start with, but i have found now when i say to him show me you are listening, he will look at me while i talk........

it took a while, i started with the drawn out sentance of, look at me to show me you are listening, and over time i have shortened this, and he still responds.

Don't know if this will help you,, but may give you an idea or two

tomline · Post Number:#3 **Posted:** Thu Jan 08, 2009 2:22 pm

Thanks for that idea, I'll see how that works

I wish I knew whether it feels just too unbareably uncomfortable to give eye contact or if it's to do with not realising how important it is, or maybe it's a combination of both. :roll:

Clare

farfalla · Post Number:#4 **Posted:** Thu Jan 08, 2009 4:49 pm

Hi Claire
when asking son about this he said that when he looks into peoples eyes - his eyes sting!
in the begining his eyes use to water when trying to fix onto mine.

It is still hard for him to look even into a camera for photos.
So i said before I use the same technique and ask him to look in to show he is reflection..... ha it works! :shock:

tomline · Post Number:#5 **Posted:** Tue Jan 13, 2009 12:14 pm

That's really interesting. Thanks!
We've hit a bit of a brickwall, B thinks she is giving a second of eye contact (which is what I had suggested to her as a start) when someone speaks to her :roll:

but I haven't seen any at all

Obviously I haven't told her that I can't see any eye contact happening,

maybe her confidence will increase as she believes herself to be giving eye contact? Then she might actually be able to do it :geek:

I'll see how it goes for a few weeks

Clare

Canopus · Post Number:#6 **Posted:** Tue Jan 13, 2009 5:41 pm

Have your kids been tested by an optician for a phoria? This is a condition where both eyes don't focus on the same point in the distance simultaneously. Opticians rarely seem to test kids for a phoria but it can result in co-ordination problems caused by a reduction in depth perception including lining things up or judging speed and distance. A phoria may also cause problems with eye contact. The traditional way to test for a phoria is with a Maddox rod although computerised tests are now available.

Glasses with a prism built into the lenses are available that helps to correct a phoria.

AS Home Ed · **Joined:** 16 July 2008 **Posts:** 113

This might come across as stating the obvious but don't wave your hands around when you are talking. It drives people to distraction. Keep them still. I have a relative who is always waving her hands around when she talks. My son can't bear to look at her when she does this so turns away but he is still listening. I have told the relative this but she has difficulty in keeping her hands still and eventually starts moving them. She doesn't have any nervous twitches but her hand waving when speaking is an ingrained bad habit she can't kick.

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